Speak Up
November 1, 2019

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Bernard M. Baruch's famous quote is a little over-done, but still, it's meaning holds true. Of course, speaking your mind and your truth is possibly one of the hardest things you can do. It leaves you vulnerable and open to being hurt. So what do you do when you want to stand up and speak out, but you are scared or anxious? Then we ask you: would you rather play it safe and never speak up, or do you want to live a life with no regrets?

Of course, there is never a guarantee the people around you will be receptive or supportive, but that doesn't matter. Keeping your feelings to yourself can have serious side effects. Let's take, for example, having a crush and keeping it a secret. When you catch feelings for someone and do not get any feedback or reciprocation, the infatuation becomes harder to control. And then even wrose, you might fall for the idea of your crush rather than the person themselves.

So how to speak up you ask? Start with small, subtle actions. No one said you have to lay it all on the line at one go. It might even build up your confidence if you start with small gestures, a compliment, a change of topics, etc. And sure, you don't need to walk around with a script, but it helps to rehearse what you want to say before actually saying it. Have a clear and concise idea of how you feel so you can better convey those feelings to the people around you. And just remember what Mr. Baruch said: those who matter won't mind.

"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is."
Ryan Gosling